Welcome to this week’s Link Love post!

Link Love is simply three links about weddings, wedding vows, ceremonies, or Savannah, GA that caught my eye this week and I want to share with y’all. I aim to share stories, tips, and information that will interest you and help you plan your wedding or elopement.

Here are the links for the week of August 8, 2014.

1. How to Have a Feminist Wedding (The Guardian)

I found this article by Laura Bates on her struggle to have a feminist wedding to be pretty messy and disorganized, but some of the comments are amazing and they are the reason I am recommending it.

I agree with the most frequent response in the comments: stop overthinking it and just have the wedding you want.

One of my other problems with Bate’s piece is that it conflates marriage with weddings. Many of the elements of a traditional wedding ceremony are ‘patriarchal,’ but marriage isn’t inherently so. I also don’t understand why someone who has worked so much to help women empowerment cares so much about everyone else’s expectations. Remember, it’s your day!

2. Couple Goes High-Tech And Low Cost For Their Big Day (NPR)

This is a really interesting interview on how a couple used online startups to have their wedding in New York City for under $10K. Some of the startups they used are Airbnb, TaskRabbit, Instacart and Paperless Post. There are lots of wedding and elopement planning tips throughout the piece.

3. The Perfect Wedding Vows Are Different for Each Couple (Huffpost Weddings)

Wedding officiant Laurie Sue Brockway gives some advice on how to have a wedding ceremony that reflects you, whether you use traditional vows, create your own, or even decide not have any.

This reflection on vows is just so perfect:

“Sometimes they decide they don’t want to speak much in the ceremony, or they are afraid they will end up in a puddle of tears. Sometimes they just don’t want to include vows. That is totally fine too.

At the wedding altar, the love in your heart is easily conveyed by a look, a touch, a way of being. It doesn’t always have to be put into words.”

Til next time, y’all!

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